you've written happy birthday poked his
你写了生日快乐，还把他的
penis through the paper as well he's
阴茎戳破了纸，他
very very needy he wants attention I've
非常需要他，他想要关注，我
not been bitten or scratched or anything
没有被咬过或抓过，什么的，
it's not even noticeable you genuinely
甚至没有被注意到，你真的
think that the person actually wants to
认为这个人真的
see a picture of your dick it's likely
想看你阴茎的照片 它很可能
to be spreading poison
传播毒药
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I run a fairly well-known Twitter
我经营着一个相当知名的推特
account and the people that follow me
账户，关注我的人，
you know they're always really engaged
你知道，他们总是真正
with what I do and my birthday the guy
关注我所做的事情和我的生日，那个人
kindly messaged me he'd written happy
好心地给我发信息，他写了
birthday on a piece of paper poked his
生日快乐 在一张纸上，他把
penis through the paper as well taking a
阴茎戳进纸里，还拍了张
photo of it and direct messaged me on
照片，然后直接在推特上给我发信息，
Twitter it was the first thing that I
这是我打开的第一件东西，
opened and that's how I started off my
这就是我
birthday my immediate reaction
生日的开始，不幸的是，我当时的第一反应
unfortunately was just one of ugh I've
只是呃，我 我已经非常
become really really used to this kind
非常习惯这种
of message so it's no longer something
信息了，所以它不再像
that shocks me or that horrifies me the
way it used to it's more just
以前那样让我震惊或恐惧，更多的只是
tiresome and disappointing there are
令人厌倦和失望，
different reasons why people send dick
人们发送阴茎照片的原因各不相同，
pics first of all sexual gratification
首先是为了性满足，
the idea of shocking somebody with your
这个想法 震惊某人 因为
photograph sexual humiliation where you
你
feel that somebody's going to be really
觉得有人会对
angry with you so you get a response
你非常生气，所以你会以
that way and also on occasion a misstep
这种方式得到回应，但有时也会犯错，
because you genuinely think that the
因为你真的认为那
person actually wants to see a picture
个人
of your dick most of the time the rule
大多数时候都想看你阴茎的照片 规则
being don't send a dick pic unless you
是不要发送阴茎照片，除非你
asked for one it's a sexual violation
要求，这是性侵犯，
it's an act that they've not invited and
这是他们没有邀请的行为，
you have no idea of the history of the
你也不知道
person that you're sending it to I
你发送照片的人的历史，我
really just didn't want to be a part of
真的不知道 我不想成为
this particular person enjoying himself
这个特定人的一部分，
any more than he already had what I
因为他已经享受了更多，我
decided to do was to outsmart him in the
决定做的就是用
best way that I could think of just
我能想到的最好的方式智胜他，只是让
confuse the poor bloke
这个可怜的家伙感到困惑，
I've printed out the conversation this
我把这次谈话打印出来了 那
guy sends me this image so I replied
个人给我发了这张照片，所以我回复说“
with me that's great and I appreciate
太好了，我很感激你的
the effort but I'm distracted by what
努力，但我被
appears to be a danger red mark on your
你肚子上似乎有一个危险的红点分散了注意力，
stomach I zoomed into the picture that
我放大了
he'd sent me and I drew an arrow and
他发给我的照片，然后画了一个箭头 并
circled this sort of tiny spot a normal
把这个很小的点圈起来，这个
spot that you know could have been on
点很正常，你知道它可能发生在
anybody and he said what it looks tiny
任何一个人身上， 他说看起来很小
and I said I have a degree in
，我说我有
dermatology I don't I've seen these
皮肤病学学位，我不，我
before in that position and it's often a
以前在那个位置见过这些，这通常是
sign of something more serious what do
更严重问题的征兆，
you mean in that position it's just a
你是什么意思，在那个位置，它只是一个
spot it doesn't itch and I've never
斑点，它没有 不痒，我
noticed it before how can a spot be
以前从来没有注意到过，斑点怎么会这么
serious
严重
God okay stay calm for now but why is
呢天哪，好吧，现在保持冷静，但是为什么呢，
that but it doesn't itch I don't
但是它不痒，我不
understand itching is a bad thing it's
明白，瘙痒是一件坏事，它
just a spot no
只是一个斑点，不
itching is a sign of something healing
痒是 这是正在愈合的迹象，
when a spot in that position doesn't
当那个位置的某个点不
itch it's likely to be spreading poison
痒的时候，它很可能正在传播毒药，
what we call silently but what's
我们称之为悄无声息，但
specific about that position poison I've
那个位置有什么特别之处毒药我
没有被咬过或抓过，或者什么的，
it's not even noticeable there's a level
甚至没有被注意到，有一定程度
of vulnerability about his messaging so
的 他对自己的信息很敏感，所以
he is concerned for his own health and
他关心自己的健康和
well-being and he's placed her not only
幸福，他不仅把她放在
in a position of power but in a position
了权力的位置，还把她放在了
of expert knowledge mate you're making
专家的位置，伙计，你让
me really worried here the fact that you
我真的很担心，因为你
haven't noticed being bitten or
没有 注意到被咬或
scratched is even more concerning this
抓伤更令人担忧，这
could well mean it's coming from further
可能意味着 它来自
within your body I don't even know what
你身体深处，我甚至不知道那是什么
that means I'm gonna take a picture of
意思，我要拍一张
that area maybe it's just that picture
那个区域的照片，也许只是那张照片，
so then he sent me a picture of a
然后他给我发了一张
close-up of just this sort of big hairy
这种大毛茸茸的特写照片
tummy and he said I can't see anything I
肚子，他说我什么都看不到，我
said oh no it's going to be really
说哦不，
difficult few months for you what does
对你来说这几个月真的很难熬，那是
that mean I'm okay there's nothing there
什么意思，我没事，那里什么都没有，
that's the nature of the condition you
这就是病情的本质，你
won't know until it's too late what
不会知道，直到为时已晚
condition I'm looking at my stomach
我现在正在看我的胃，
right now and there's nothing I'm so
什么都没有我很
sorry sorry for what I feel fine you
抱歉很抱歉我的感觉很好你
haven't explained anything clearly
没有解释清楚
you're very confused clearly the
你很困惑很明显
personality and mindset of this
这个人的性格和心态
individual is that he's very very needy
是他非常非常
he wants attention he wants to be looked
他需要别人的关注，他也希望得到
after as well and even though he
照顾，尽管他
couldn't get any help on a sexual level
无法从这个女人那里得到任何性方面的帮助，但
from this woman he now wants her on a
他现在希望得到她的
nurturing level so there's some
关爱，所以
egocentricity there as well and then I
这里面也有一些自我中心主义，然后我
didn't reply for quite some time and he
没有 回复了好长一段时间，他
put weirdly I've shown my cousin the
把奇怪的是我给我表弟看了
picture as you really stressed me out
图片，因为你之前真的让我很紧张，
earlier she agrees with me she if
她同意我的观点，她想知道是否
there's anyone you work with that would
有人和你一起工作，可以
give a second opinion that would really
提供第二种意见，这
help in a later conversation it turns
对以后的谈话很有帮助，
out that he'd been to a doctor about it
事实证明他已经去看了医生，
he sent me a picture of where he'd
他给我发了一个 他刮了
shaved his own stomach to have a look at
自己肚子上毛的地方的照片，为了看看
this spot I decided to post screenshots
这个地方，我决定把
of this conversation up online people
这次对话的截图贴到网上，人们
thought it was very funny and a lot of
觉得很有趣，很多
people said you know this is a great way
人说，你知道，这是
to deal with this kind of cyber flashing
解决这个问题的好方法 网上闪现，
but there was this really confusing but
但有
very small proportion of people who said
一小部分人真的很困惑，他们说
that it was very very unfair of me and
这对我非常不公平，
that it was me that essentially it was
这是
my fault because I hadn't told him that
我的错，因为我没有告诉他
I didn't want to receive an explicit
我不想要 收到一张露骨的
image
图片，
I feel like something has gone really
我觉得社会真的出了
wrong with Society where the onus is on
问题，女人有责任向
the woman to explain to a man that she
男人解释，她
doesn't want to be flashed at online
不想在网上被露骨的照片，
having said that if you're in any way
但如果你
uncomfortable with these things you must
对 这些事情你必须
block and you must report the only
阻止，你必须报告
reason I do this is because I've become
我这样做的唯一原因是因为我变得
rather sadly desensitized I think that
相当麻木不仁，我认为
breca's approach was comedic I
布雷卡的 方法很喜剧，我
understand why people would say well
理解为什么人们会说，嗯，
it's a little bit cruel you had this guy
这有点残忍，你让这个家伙
convinced he was potentially dying my
相信他可能会死，我的
argument chain of causation you started
论点是因果链，你
the situation by sending a dick pic she
通过发送一张她不想要的鸡巴照片开始了这种情况，
didn't want and the day it's fair game
after that
然后第二天就公平了 那个
foreign
外国